Letting go of love

There comes a time in your life when you realize that it's not about loving other people its about loving yourself. We all will love and lose love in our lives. I know how that feels. Its horrible to see people change, you once knew everything about them, and when you see them after everything has happened.. you no longer know them you have gone back to being strangers. What hurts more is when the person you loved now loves someone else. It makes you feel sick, it is the worst thing in the world. If only the person you loved would never love anyone again, it would make you feel better. But its going to happen and you will have to deal with it. The constant thoughts will plague your head. Thinking of them with someone else.. Loving them but having nothing in return. It becomes unrequited love, you may always love that person but they will never feel the same about you again. It kills you, it hurts your heart, physically. It attacks your soul. But you cannot let it beat you. If you let it beat you you will never get over it. Sometimes if you really love someone you have to just let them go. It is true what they say about that. Let them be free, let them be happy even if inside you feel like it's all falling apart. We may hate our ex partners at first and be so hurt and angry and how they can just leave us. But soon you will want them best for them, even if that means you wont have the best for yourself. You will realize that you once cared about this person, and if you care about someone you will let them live their own lives and make their own mistakes. There is something quite cathartic about loving someone so much and letting them go. It doesn't mean you don't love them anymore but it means you have finally comes to term with the loss, and it makes you a better person for doing so.

Love isn't meant to be easy, i know they say that true love is easy, but that's not true, Love is about facing obstacles, getting hurt so you can learn to appreciate the good in things. The first step is to love yourself, love yourself beyond anything because there might come a time in your life when you only have yourself, and you will need YOU. Once you love yourself you allow the world to love you.

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

Jade xox