Falling out of love

Someone once said to me that ‘They fell out of love’.

In my opinion you can only fall out of love if you never loved that person in the first place. 

Once you love someone, and the lust has passed, you begin to love them completely. 

You love them for all their flaws, you love them when they are at their worst, and when they are ill. 

It is true love, especially when you have been with someone a long time. Once you have felt that love for someone it will NEVER go, even if they hurt you in ways you never thought possible. 

Love stays. You can bury that love, but you will never fall out of it, because love doesn’t work that way.

So if you have been in a relationship with someone a long time, and you have felt their love for you, if they have looked after you, gone to sleep and woke up with you every night, and then one day they say that they have fallen out of love with you, they either never felt it and did a great job at acting for all those years, or they still love you, but they are choosing to bury that love.

You can fall out of love with a song, or a perfume, because you may have overused it. But with people and the human heart it is very different. We are capable of holding onto a love we once had for a lifetime. You will move on from that love, you will fall in love with other people, but every love you have in life will stay with you forever, it shapes you, it makes you who you are, the love you had and the people you have loved will never disappear from you, they will be embedded in you in some way.

You can only ever fall out of LUST.